Skills to Succeed

Conditions may heat up many a times. May it be conflicts or challenging conversations in day to day life or at work, at times running out of control leaving everything ruined and plans shattered, as they never existed. The damage to emotions and relationships irreparable ! Can you recall one from your life? When aggression was at prime and nothing but a cool inter mediator was required to handle it? That person seemed to be a fire extinguisher in such a situation. Isn't it? He with his skills resolved everything without upsetting anyone. Self-esteem preserved at both ends. Sounds magical isn’t it? But this is true. There are a set of skills referred to as Diplomatic Skills that actually work  it out. They help us to take care of situations before they actually run out.   Diplomacy: Meaning It is an art of dealing with people and demanding situations in a sensitive and tactful way. It a win -win approach to conflict resolution. A prudence in handling people to meet one’s own

ASSERTIVENESS There have been situations many a times in our life when we are surrounded by bossy, dogmatic people. It takes an arduous effort to make space for oneself. At times these people who are real leeches tend to be extremely toxic and demanding. They push us to situations where neither flowing nor fleeing is possible. It is difficult to breathe and make a way out. Voicing out oneself in the right perspective gets important here. What should the correct approach ? "If  you don't have a seat at the table,you're probably on the menu."                                          -                       -  Elizabeth  Warren                                                                                                             ASSERTIVENESS OR AGGRESSION?? To maintain personal self-esteem and foster healthy relationships at workplace or personal life it is demand of the hour to be more Assertive rather than being aggressive. Aggression is a s

Angry,happy,surprised,disgusted,sad what are your emotions today?Are you aware of all  your emotions?Can you manage and control them well?Do you have an understanding to the feelings of others?Do you manage happy & healthy  relationships with others to stay connected ?Well ,if Yes then you are lucky.You are blessed with extrovert nature and an innate understanding of Emotions. You are Emotionally Intelligent. Emotional Intelligence: Meaning Emotional Intelligence  is associated with an understanding of feelings of self ,control on the feelings of self ,understanding the feeling of others emphatically and managing relationships well so as to be successful , contented and happy in personal and professional relationships. Be it home,society,office or any possible place we cannot survive in isolation.So as to carry on with people at home or coworkers at workplace it is important to understand self and emotions of others so as to make healthy,authentic relationships and to succ

It began with a smile followed by an appreciation for every little thing that I am blessed with  and it helped heal my wounds!Isn't it amazing? but true.Does a depressed ,anxious mind always need a medication?The answer is ,No.There is a beautiful emotion,underused ,in present times that can make us happier, productive,optimistic and stronger at relations called Gratitude. GRATITUDE:Meaning Gratitude is a feeling associated with appreciation,thankfulness and a return of kindness.It is acknowledging the goodness we carry in our lives.It helps us to see what's there instead of what isn't. It makes us more positive,It is like a magnet to miracles. It helps us to connect with the good we have and the good others have been doing for us.Result is improved happiness ,better relations and increased productivity powered by optimism. Every time we express gratitude we throw a positive energy in the universe.Energy has its own scientific principles and laws. One of it states

One of the Buddhist philosophies says "Respond don't React".There have been situations many a time that have triggered an Emotional Imbalance in us,which left us overwhelmed,anxious and helpless.Could it be deadlines,targets to be achieved,over expectations of spouse or people around ,sarcastic remarks or an unsolicited advice ,we all have witnessed an emotional overflow ,Isn't it?Unfortunately,at times injurious to career and relationships and we are left with a "could  it have been so"or " should it had been" statements to ponder on. Provocations have been many and sometimes indescribable .We ourselves may not be aware what made us react. but  we did, Question here arises "Can we be in command of our feelings ?" Can we be the masters of our moods instead of being slaves to someone else's acts?".Answer is YES. This is not our innate self .We are pure and peaceful souls .The need is to reconnect ourselves with the inner bl

Our thoughts become our life.We get what we believe in . I think,"I Can" then I do it.I find "I am Loved"  so I seek love in your eyes!  Self Esteem is  evaluating One's Own Worth . It isn't How other people see us but, how we see ourselves? It includes beliefs about our own self,A HIGH Self Esteem makes us feel 'Confident' and generates a positive energy into us which further manifolds our capacity to make new achievements.On the other hand,a LOW Self Esteem makes us a  negative person who is always anxious about how to manage things and is never sure about his judgments. Not sure about your Self Esteem sense here is a checklist:- SYMPTOMS OF LOW SELF ESTEEM 😇Do you believe in certain values &principles and have your own choices? 😇Do you trust your Own judgments? 😇Do you carry a "Can do" attitude? 😇You feel you deserve good and capable of working it out. 😇You have your own aura and not let others enter it.

Smiling or shrewd Grin?Leaning towards or face turned apart?What shows interest of a person?You are out for an interview but you are touching your face often or with a frown on the  face?What does it show?It simply means that you are tensed and not confident ,isn't it? Believe it or not our body constantly throws nonverbal signals which speak  out loudly about our inner self.While we are speaking or even after that our body continues to transmit messages.Those people who can  understand these messages are able to pick  up unspoken issues,problems or negative feelings that one may carry in his mind.The reality is most of us concentrate more on these non verbal clues rather than what the other person is speaking.Surprisingly,90% of our interview success,winning a date or lead in a important negotiation comes with this skill.A warm handshake,a soft and constant eye contact can work wonders.! Even a little of work on this subset of nonverbal communication called BODY LANGUAGE can